How can I use journaling to see if I’m living by others’ expectations at work?

Try a short, focused entry: 1) Values vs. Obligations: draw two columns. In Values, list 3 things you truly care about in work (e.g., learning, craftsmanship, impact). In Obligations, list 3 things you do mostly to please others (e.g., prestige, appearing busy). 2) Energy check: note which tasks leave you calm/energized vs. tense/drained. 3) The no-audience test: “If no one knew I did this, would I still choose it?” Write a few lines on why. Repeat weekly in the Stoic app to notice patterns. Small awareness shifts often show where you’re living someone else’s life and where you’re already aligned with your own.

I’m afraid of disappointing people if I follow my own path. How do I journal through that fear with Stoic?

Use a simple fear-to-values flow: 1) Name the fear: “I’m afraid that…” Write one paragraph. 2) Separate facts from forecasts: list what’s certain vs. what you’re predicting. 3) Circle of control: list 3 actions you can control today (e.g., an honest conversation, one hour of focused work, a boundary). 4) Values anchor: write one sentence that starts, “Even if others disagree, I choose this because it reflects my value of…” Save these reflections in Stoic. Over time, you’ll see the fear coexist with a clearer, self-directed why.

I keep comparing myself to others online. What daily journaling routine helps me focus on my own life?

Try a brief morning-evening loop: Morning (3 minutes): 1) One intention that’s yours (not borrowed): “Today matters if I…” 2) Top 3 priorities that reflect your values, not trends. 3) Not-to-do: one comparison trigger you’ll skip. Evening (3 minutes): 1) Alignment check: where did I act like myself? 2) Micro-course-correct: one small tweak for tomorrow. 3) Gratitude for a choice you made that felt authentic. The Stoic app can hold this routine so you track alignment, not applause, and gradually reduce comparison’s pull.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.

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